Wednesday, June 7, 2017

the DICTIONARY of SERVICE

NOUN 

1.    Anytime you help out another person
Ex: Taking out garbage cans for a neighbor

2.    Putting someone else’s needs above your own
Ex: Just sitting and listening to someone who needs to vent about problems is service because you are helping someone with their emotional needs of being valued and cared for. 

3.    Offering yourself to another person so you can leave them better than you found them
Ex: One time I made my roommate’s bed after she left our apartment for a stressful morning.  It was small, but I loved her and wanted to lift her up and do something for her.

4.    Doing something for someone without expected payback
Ex: My roommate making my bed for me.

5.    Giving of yourself so that someone else is better/happier than when you found them
Ex: Leaving a kind note on my roommate’s desk

6.    Providing a good, act, or experience to a group or individual which can lead to compensation for said wares, or done as a charitable act
Ex: 3 years in minimum wage soul crushing retail work (?)


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7.    Doing something for someone else, either because they can’t themselves, or just because it makes their life easier
Ex: I was leaving the hospital just today, and there were two older ladies waiting for the valet to bring them their car.  One of the ladies was using a walker and had an oxygen generator and purse hanging from the walker.  When the valet brought the care to them, he got out left the driver’s door open and went to the next car.  I went over and helped the lady with the walker into the car, untangled the oxygen cord from the walker, and helped her get everything in the car.  I then put the walker in the back seat of the car so that the other women (also having difficulty getting around) wouldn’t have to do it.  Yes, they would have made it on their own, but I believe that helping do the simple things that makes someone’s life just a little easier/better are acts of service.

8.    Anything you do of your own free will for the benefit of others.  It doesn’t have to big or grand, it just needs to be for someone other than yourself.
Ex: taking time out of my own schedule to help a friend who needs a ride to the airport is a simple thing I’ve done that could be called service. 

9.    Doing something for someone else without expecting anything in return
Ex: Each week I visit people who are dying to try and make their last hours of life a little more enjoyable

10. Doing something kind for someone else
Ex: I was in a car accident once and I was sort of in shock the rest of the day and felt like no one cared.  I also felt super guilty that I’d totaled our family’s van.  My best friend came by that night just to make sure I was okay and brought my favorite candy.  Super simple act of service but we both cried.  It meant a lot for her to do that even though she didn’t know I’d felt terrible about it all day. 

11.  It is giving time, talents, or resources to someone who needs them
Ex: Every week I skype with a man who is a refugee from Cuba.  I feel like I really help the guy, both by teaching him English and being his friend. 
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12. Helping someone       
Ex: someone making multiple meals for my family with no prompting from anyone when they were sorely needed

13. Doing something kind for others
Ex: The Walmart greeter told my roommate and I that she was having a bad day.  As we were checking out my roommate bought her a candy bar and gave it to the greeter. 

14. Helping others when it is isn’t always convenient and expecting nothing in return
Ex: Definitely being a mother

15. Doing something to lighten another person’s work load; or do something they cannot do for themselves
Ex: When my friend took my money, and picked up breakfast for me because I was very busy and did not have time.  He desired to help, and it required extra effort for him, but was a large benefit to me. 

16. Service is doing something to help someone else.  Service is seeing a need and filling it.  Service is looking outside of your own sphere and looking to then needs of others.  Service can be as simple as a smile.
Ex: Today someone told me that her Dad died yesterday.  She was very sad.  I hardly knew her, but she shared that information with me this morning when we were at a school activity helping our 5th graders.  She was trying to talk about things related to school, but was struggling not to cry.   I just said that I wanted to give her a hug.  She gladly accepted and I think it helped her know that someone cared.  I felt so much love for her, and a desire to do something even small to meet her needs.  I told her that I would keep her in my prayers. 

17. Doing something to help someone else
Ex: When I was on bedrest with my first child I was the recipient of much service – one friend came over once every 3 days to change my medicine injection site; another lent me many movies to pass the time; several others brought in meals; and my mother moved in for a couple weeks to care for me and the house while my husband was out of town. 


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Wednesday, March 22, 2017

See the Beauty in the Thorns and Enjoy the Roses

Recently a man commented on a video that I had posted on Facebook, attacking my religious beliefs.  I spent the morning thinking of what I could say to make him "eat his words."  I thought of several possibilities.  I could have made some sassy comeback or I could have attacked his personal religious beliefs but that wouldn't have been very Christ-like of me.  All I could think was he was focusing on some small detail and was failing to see the beauty of the book.  As I kept thinking about the situation, all that came to my mind was, "Forget the thorns and enjoy the roses."  
Yep, life has all sorts of types of thorns.  Some are sharper than others.  Some big and some small.  The trials of life, misunderstandings, heartbreak, confusions, a clouded future, poor health, and lost dreams can be on a long list of thorns in our lives.  Many times in life we focus so much on the thorns that we keep getting poked and pricked that we reopen our own wounds we thought we had already closed and yet leaving another scar.  Focusing on the negative poisons our thoughts and make the thorns in our lives seem even bigger and sharper. 


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 We get so deep into them that we forget to see what is growing along with them, the roses.  
      Even among the thorns, the roses blow strong, bright, colorful, and unique.  They start out as small bud and slowly bloom into gorgeous roses even though they are surrounded by tough thorns.  There are so many thorns in life but there are also incredible roses.  Sunrises, sunsets, nature's own flowers, a hug from a friend, a comforting word from a parent, breathing everyday, and even you.  Sometimes it is very hard to recognize those beautiful roses no matter how small or big they are.  We spend more energy focusing on the pain and the hurt than we do focusing on the blessings.  The thorns are what make the roses beautiful.  If our lives didn't have thorns we couldn't enjoy the beauty of life's roses.  We can either let those thorns poison us or we can use them to strengthen ourselves.  It is not easy to fight against all those nasty thorns.  It sucks actually.  But we all can do it.  The harder we push ourselves the more beautiful and the stronger we become.  We can even do it better when we allow the loving Gardener, our Heavenly Father, to take over.  We should take each thorn in life as a blessing. Just think how amazing you will be after pushing past all that. Just think about how many more people you will be able to help amongst the thorns if you are stronger.  So recognize those thorns and prepare to become the best, the strongest, the brightest, and the most beautiful you-rose that you have ever seen. 
 

yeah I know they aren't roses but they're still pretty ;)